I think we have all encountered relationships that we think could have worked and yet later on down the line we discover that it is not working as much as we imagined it would. We go through that wonderful "attraction" stage during our first meeting and it appears that the person we have stars in our eyes about could do no wrong.
Then reality sinks in and things begin to get "comfortable" and we begin to "let down our guard". This is not altogether a bad thing. If there is real love developing there, then the difficult things that might arise will only become more endearing. We always hope that this will be the case, especially if we have desired a good relationship for a very long time.
I have realized over time that our wants and desires can cloud our judgment of what it is to be in love and what that really means. Often those clouds are just from the past issues we have endured and not dealt with and so what we see and experience is seen through a screen of our past whether they were good experiences or not.
There are times, though, that relationships can become toxic and I feel it is real important to address this issue for all of those who are seeking that love of their life or at least come close to a love that can last the rest of this lifetime. There are some very clear signs to look out for and I am going to list as many of them as I can. You, the reader, might come up with some of your own! Please feel free to add your own!
What toxic relationships look like: 1) Your partner puts limits on your friendships or family connections
2) There is an expression that there is a need for "more space"
3) Intimacy is withheld as punishment when there is an issue to deal with
4) Partner has to leave the area to text or make a phone call to "family members"
5) No desire to be seen or the relationship acknowledged by other couples or friends
6) Partner tells you what you can and can not wear
7) There is an "air" of superiority in the tone and conversation of that person
8) There is some "need" that the other person is trying to fill in being with you
9) You are giving more then you are being given to. One sided
10) Certain family members of theirs can not "meet" you
11) The degree of affection is not balanced between you
12) Partner puts expectations upon you and love is not unconditional
13) An argument about small things will become a disaster real quickly
14) No matter what you say, you are made to feel that you are the one who is always wrong
15) No compromise, no compassion, no communication or communication results are always one sided no matter how much you talk
16) Verbal abuse
17) Physical abuse
18) Passive aggressive behavior
19) Suddenly partner sees nothing good in you but always picks out the things they perceive to be "wrong"
20) Always accusing you of being unfaithful or "looking" when that is never the case
21) Constant prodding into your past looking for things that make you "unacceptable" or "less than" .
These are some of my top ones. You can add a few more if you like. In the case of a final "kiss off" after encountering this type of relationship, consider it a blessing and move on with your life! There are plenty of people in the world and there is always someone for each of us!
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